It’s been almost a year, so I figure it’s safe to write about this dating mishap. I had tentatively dipped my toe into online dating after a long absence and some unsatisfactory experiences. One of my first dates was a local man who was a few years my junior. We met for lunch at a popular restaurant and had a good time.
We kept in touch and made plans to meet a few days later at an evening work event I was hosting. Then we’d go out for drinks afterwards. The event was on November 9, 2016, the day after the presidential election.
During the day, I had a lot going on at the office. My date emailed me a few times, saying his grandson ended up needing unexpected surgery in another city, and his daughter wanted him to go along with her for support. He wasn’t sure he would be able to make it back in time for our date.
I knew he had a grandson, but he never mentioned he was ill. I was understanding and told him not to worry about trying to make it back in time. I wished him and his grandson the best.
He replied that he’d let me know his logistics as the day progressed. After a few more brief exchanges, he emailed me, saying that he wouldn’t be able to make our date because the surgery took longer than expected. Again, I sent my good wishes and said I hoped we could get together some other time.
That evening, after the event, a group of us wanted to go out and have a post-election debriefing/support session. None of us were Trump supporters, and like much of the nation, we were in shock at his election. I got home from that late and depressed, with no energy to turn on my computer and check for messages from my wayward man friend.
The next morning, I dragged myself into work and checked my email. It contained a nasty note from my date. I don’t remember the exact wording, but it was something snarky about my lack of communication skills and that he no longer wanted to date me.
It was bad enough having a president elected that I didn’t like, but now I was getting dumped, too!
Both things caught me off guard. Not to mention the irony that I am a professional communicator who was getting dumped for my lack of communication skills. 🙂
Although I had doubts about the veracity of his claim of a sick grandson, I gave the man the benefit of those doubts and, after taking time to collect my thoughts and rein in my feelings, apologized to him for not “being there” when he needed someone during a stressful time, and I explained my situation.
But I also thought it was a rather knee-jerk and severe punishment to break up with someone you just met because they weren’t attached to their email at all times. So I told him I would no longer be contacting him, either.
Despite all this, the person I’d really rather blame the whole thing on is Donald Trump. If he hadn’t been elected, I wouldn’t have needed a group therapy session, and thus might have had more time and energy to be attentive to my date.
So you can add my love life to the list of things the president has dismantled since his election.
11 thoughts on “How Donald Trump Cost me a Boyfriend”
A. You are a brilliant communicator.
B. The election threw many of us into a serious vortex.
C. NOBODY, I mean no one, should be so attached to their electronic devices that interactions with 3D people are disrupted. See: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-HVHULmy6gE
D. You are lucky to have exited the situation!
Sharon, you are the greatest. And you are also a brilliant communicator, I might add. I will watch that YouTube video.
You can be glad this guy showed his true colors before you invested too much — you wouldn’t want to be with someone who doesn’t give you the benefit of the doubt OR who expects you to be chained to your electronic devices.
Thanks Lacey. You said it! And let’s hear it for freedom from the tyranny of our electronic devices! (She said, while on an electronic device.)
He was probably a Trump supporter and it would not have worked out anyway!!! You did not owe him anything more!
Thanks. I don’t think he was a Trump supporter (I would not knowingly date one of those), but he obviously had some expectations I wasn’t living up to!
Aww!! Garfield hugs🤗
Thank you. And thanks for visiting my blog! I look forward to seeing more of your posts.
And two years later he’s still wreaking havoc; Trump that is.
Yes, it’s rather amazing, isn’t it? But not totally unexpected.